You can see already we are going down a rabbit hole. So, what is it about “searching” for a job that gets us so worked up?
- You’ll spend all your free time job searching. I recommend creating a written plan that includes personal time. This sets a structure for success and reduces the guilt you might feel. If you are searching all the time, you might feel guilty you are neglecting friends, family, and yourself. Spend time with family, friends or yourself, and you might feel guilty you are not job searching. A written plan sets boundaries around each activity and frees you from (or greatly reduces) the guilt.
- You aren’t qualified for anything. Many of my clients are surprised as they go through their homework of writing out their specific, 8 to 10 skills, abilities, and accomplishments that they bring to the table. Developing this list reminds my clients how successful they really are. It is a natural tendency to shy away from “bragging” about ourselves to others, even during an interview. But who else will do it in a one on one interview? Success stories around what you bring to the table are a natural way to think about and share your qualifications.
- You’ll hate the new job. Thinking about your interview as a conversation between two people frees you up to ask questions of them. You can decide if you would fit into the organization. While there are always surprises, you can usually get a feel for the company by the end of the interview. Often, you will interact with others on the way into and after the interview. These people can help you understand how the company operates. But remember, everyone you meet might have the ear of the decision maker. So, keep it professional.
- Letting people know you are looking for work. People almost always want to help, if given the opportunity. You can benefit from their willingness to share contacts and connections with you. And you give people the chance to do something for others, making them feel good. Most jobs are filled through networking. As my friend Mac Prichard says, “employers hire people they know or who come recommended by people they trust.” If you tell your friends and family, you could be one call away from your next job.
- Fear of interviewing. 92% of all candidates have some degree of anxiety over the interview. My clients do the work ahead of time, so they are in control of the interview and they interview the potential employer to make sure they will enjoy working for the company. They have done their research and have a written list of questions to ask the hiring manager. They ask permission to take notes during the interview. Being prepared gives my clients confidence going into the interview and sets a very positive tone.
Follow these five tips and you will reduce your fear, and stay out of the rabbit holes. It will make it easier for you to end up in your new hire orientation.